
Since becoming a cancer patient, I have realized that my response to others in this same situation has not always been ideal. I'm always afraid I may upset them by calling. What if they don't want to talk about it? So, in order to help others who have a friend with a serious diagnosis, I have started a list of "things you can do for your friend." Feel free to comment, especially if you have been in this situation--what did you really appreciate or need?
Phone call, email, or card? (Trust what you know about them--are they an email person or a phone person? Do what you think would be most comfortable for them, but do respond to the diagnosis in some way.)
DO something; Do NOT say "Call me if you need anything." (They probably won't.)
So, what can I do?
Pray
Let your friend know that you are praying, and that you have enlisted others to pray, as well
Call, email, send a note or a card (whichever is best for your friend)
Continue to keep in touch (most people will neglect this after a while)
Gift ideas:
Fresh fruit, fruit salad
Case of ginger ale
Case of water
Soup
Supper (in a disposable or container you don't need returned)
Soft, cozy blanket
Parking money for the hospital
Chauffeur service to the hospital/treatments/doctor's office
An aromatherapy candle (lavender is supposed to be relaxing)
Check on the house/apartment; feed the pets
Paperback novels
Fun DVD's (America's Funniest Home Videos, Murder She Wrote, Diagnosis Murder, whatever genre or star or series you know that your friend likes)
Stuffed animals, if they are the type that likes them
A comfortable pillow for resting on the couch
Homemade cookies
1/2 day of maid service
What would you like or need? Please comment!